DEFUSING JEALOUSY

Let’s talk about what it means to feel jealous & how to stop it from damaging your relationships.

Jealousy is a normal emotion. But when it becomes UNHEALTHY, it leads to behaviours & thoughts that hurt both you & your partner. The key is NOT TO GET RID OF JEALOUSY, BUT TO TRANSFORM IT.

Unhealthy Jealousy Looks Like:
- Constantly needing reassurance that you’re loved
- Monitoring your partner’s every move
- Searching for “evidence” of cheating
- Setting up tests to “prove” their loyalty
- Retaliating or sulking when they talk to someone else
- Imagining infidelity that isn’t happening

These patterns create insecurity, tension, & emotional distance. Over time, they DAMAGE TRUST which is the exact opposite of what you want.

Healthy Jealousy Looks Like:
- Letting your partner show love WITHOUT being prompted
- Trusting them to have conversations or friendships without suspicion
- Accepting that attraction to others doesn’t mean disloyalty
- Not assuming the worst or exaggerating threats
- Choosing to believe in your worth, even when you’re triggered

Healthy jealousy is about being aware of your feelings, but NOT letting them CONTROL YOUR BEHAVIOUR or DISTORT REALITY.

Start by pausing when you feel jealousy rise. Ask yourself:
- Is this a real threat, or an imagined one?
- Am I jumping to conclusions?
- How can I respond in a way that builds trust instead of breaking it?

The more secure you are in yourself, the more secure your relationship can become. Jealousy doesn’t have to be destructive, it can be a signal for growth, honesty, & connection.